to my lovely wife, on her birthday

Dear Holly,

Sometimes, when I’m at work and you’re at home, you’ll call me, or I’ll call you, and we’ll talk on the phone. Sometimes, during these phone calls, you’ll be in the middle of a sentence when Gwen’s voice, or Nezzie’s voice, or both, will come bursting through, wailing and screaming and drowning out your words.

“Mommy!” Inez will shriek, “I want chocolate milk!”

“Waaahhhh!” Gwen will counter, “Waaaaaahhhhhhhh!”

Sometimes, I can hear their cries in the background. Sometimes in the foreground. Sometimes right in my ear. Under most circumstances, I don’t enjoy the sound of small children screaming into my ear, so, when this sort of thing happens, I’ll say something like “I’d better let you go.” or “Sounds like you’ve got your hands full.” and quickly end the call.

Is this evidence of me being a horrible father, an insensitive husband, and a generally crappy human being? Yes, probably, yes.

Hmm. Let’s move on.

It’s usually on those days, during those calls, that I can hear weariness in your voice. You sound tired. I can hear in your voice that two girls growing up is a busy thing, a daily, hourly, constant thing, requiring a lot of adult supervision, and that you are—for too many hours of the day—the only supervising adult. Doing a lot of supervising.

Sometimes, after those calls, as I’m sitting at my desk, with a day before me filled with nothing more pressing than pixels that need pushing, I think about the tired in your voice and the wails in the background. I think about the dedication it takes to be a mom and about the love that must—that does—fuel that dedication. I think about what a wonderful woman you are. What a loving mother you are. What a perfect wife you are.

I sigh on on those days—after those calls. I sit at my desk and I sigh. And then, I smile and shake my head in disbelief at my outrageous, outlandish luck.

I love you, babe. Happy birthday.

  1. Katrina

    Happy Birthday, Holly! As requested a couple months back, I will be calling later. Hope you don’t mind.

    Dave, I don’t like people screaming in my ear either. Let’s start a support group.

  2. Ashley

    Wow, good post Dave. Happy Birthday Holly!! I hope you have a great, relaxing day.

  3. cori

    holly. happy birthday to you! happy birthday to you! happy birthday dear holly.

    that letter? i felt like i was watching a very romantic movie. i feel like i imposed. lets just say..i think it was beautiful.

  4. Liz

    Happy Birthday Holly. I hope you have a great day.

  5. Jody

    No wonder you can’t wait for Valentine’s to be over and your birthday to start. That was so nice.

    Happy Birthday!

  6. nat

    Happy Birthday, yo!

  7. Brooke

    happy birthday holly! i’m just sitting amidst the mess of post chloe party but must tell you i’ve been thinking of you ALL day.

    i hope it was a good one.

    and for the record: i’m so happy “it was all your fault” and chloe was born on your day. i feel if you guys are anything similar, i’m going to be best buddies with my baby girl well into her adulthood.

    love you!

  8. Kristen

    How sweet Dave!
    Holly, I hope you had a great day!
    love you!

  9. courtneyb

    Happy belated Birthday.
    Dave you are lucky, she is a super cool chick but you guys are perfect for each other!

  10. Tracy

    Dave, you are one cool dude. Holly, hope your birthday was wonderful, cause you are wonderful!

  11. Gingerlylizzy

    Happy Birthday Holly! What a beautiful note from your hubby. Sounds like he isn’t the only one who is lucky!


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